This post is long overdue!!
Back in October I was asked by a very good friend of mine, Winsome Duncan, aka Lyrical Healer to write the foreword to her relationship book, You Were Supposed to Love Me (The Break Up Book.) This book tackles many issues such as, healing a broken heart, letting go and loving Your Self. Immediately, I connected with the message and ethos of the book and jumped at the chance to write her foreword.
The launch was on 19th October and was an amazing event. During the event Lyrical kicked off with interactive exercises with the audience where we discussed what breaks and makes a relationship. She read excerpts from her book in her smooth poetical style and I was also honoured to be a guest at her book launch along with author Gwenton Sloely (author of From The Streets to Scotland Yard.)
You can see coverage of the event along with our interviews here:
Part 1 (Introduction to book, exercises and book launch)
Part 2: (Interviews. I’m at 7mins)
Part 3: (The Mr Loose Eye song exclusive)
The most exciting of all was the debut performance of our new Mr Wrong song entitled Mr Loose Eye (performed by Lyrical Healer, Ian Sampson and Kevin) You can watch here:
When I was asked to write the foreword for Winsome Duncan’s new book, You Were Supposed To Love Me, I was both honoured and proud to be part of this project. In fact, it goes far deeper than that: it is a movement. As our collective consciousness begins to expand and evolve, we are all waking up to the fact that our journeys begin from within.
I first met Winsome Duncan on the poetry scene at an open Mic night and I was drawn to her silky smooth voice and healing lyrics. However, we truly connected when she became a contributor for my new book “Mr Wrong”.
Mr Wrong is a collection of stories written by women about their encounters with “Mr Wrongs” but more importantly, how they overcame their experiences and finally set themselves out onto a positive path of self-love.
Winsome immediately got that it was not about berating men or beating them with a stick; it is more a means to inspire, unite and empower women through the sharing of our valuable stories. In essence, our stories begin from within and we must look at our chosen partners as a reflection of our choices. A relationship takes two and it would be wrong to place the blame on a single individual. I strongly believe that we are the author of our own destiny and that we teach people how to treat us. If we love ourselves, then there is no room to tolerate anything less from those we bring into our circles.
You Were Supposed To Love Me is a book that focusses on Self-Love. It explores some of the deep, uncomfortable feelings one is left with after the loss of a relationship. It delves into the depths of the abandoned partner’s mind, to the point of discomfort at times, allowing us to gain insight into the subconscious issues and beliefs that affect the way we relate to others. She cleverly weaves a collective of real life experiences into a single book to examine feelings of rejection, jealously, anger and abandonment. As the author of Mr Wrong and as a secondary school teacher, I have come across so many women across the ages in pain, despair and swimming in hopelessness after heartbreak. The question that binds them together:
“What is wrong with me?”
Too often we are made to feel that we have done something wrong, that we didn’t give enough or love enough or have enough. Well we are enough and we are worthy. Too often, we define ourselves by the standards or treatment of others lulling us into a false sense of insecurity that we are not enough.
Winsome Duncan and I went to see Trent Shelton speak not too long ago and I echo his words just as they are;
“You are perfect for the heart that is meant to love you.”
Winsome Duncan is known in the entertainment world as Lyrical Healer. She is just that someone who heals people through words. She is a Strong Woman who has risen up through her own adversity, gained power through her painful experiences and is now boldly stepping out to touch others.
You Were Supposed To Love Me is essential for those who allow their anger, disappointment and loss to rule their lives and dictate their downward spiral. It is testament to the fact that, it is not purely your partner who is, “supposed to love me passed my pain and make me smile rainbows again” but us. It is testament to the fact that there is light at the end of what can seem like a long, daunting dark tunnel and that there is hope and growth and renewal after pain. You Were Supposed To Love Me is testament to the fact that we can use our pain and stories and experiences as a tool to evolve and grow rather than a weapon that will see us fall into the pits of doom. I hope that this little book unites, inspires and empowers both women and men to believe that there is life after heart break and I hope that the realisation that it is only we who have the ability to break our hearts shoots straight through the page and grabs us with full force.
Author of Mr Wrong
You can buy the book by clicking on the link here
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