It’s been two years in the making and I can finally say I have done it! Mr Wrong was published on Saturday 20th September weighing a mere 2Ilbs and costs £9.99. The book launch was held at Brixton Electric Social and I was overwhelmed at such a warm reception both myself, the panelists and my book Mr Wrong was given. I am still overwhelmed at the support and encouragement demonstrated not only on the day, but the two years leading up to it. I am still too overwhelmed to write about it properly so please read this lovely review from Little Miss Lola who read her harrowing but totally and utterly inspiring true life account of her traumatic experience with her Mr Wrong. To freedom, to independence and above all self-worth. xx

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Thursday evening saw Blue and I take a little train ride to London for the official launch of Daniella Blechner’s book, Mr.Wrong – Learn From Mr.Wrong And Claim Mr.Right.


About a year ago, the beautiful and talented Miss. Blechner discovered this blog and asked me to contribute a story to her book about women who consistently date the wrong men. I, obviously, had an abundance of tales to choose from. In the end, I chose to share the story of my relationship with my son’s father. Drug addiction, domestic violence, single parenthood…sadly, it seemed the story most people could relate to.

The book launch at Social Electric in Brixton was a wonderful event. The gathered audience, at standing room only, oozed support and praise for Miss. Blechner as well as the guest speakers she had invited along for the evening. As one of these guest speakers, it was comforting to…

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Cursed Out


swear wordsFEATURED STORY taken from Chapter 3: Dating Disasters and Red Flags

“When people show you they are, believe them.”- Maya Angelou

How would you react to this undesirable date? Let us know in the comment box.

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I don’t think I had met anyone from Yonkers before I met Tommy. He looked happy and well-balanced in his photos, with a shaved head and an earring. Tommy was a big sports fan and seemed to possess some of the traditional notions that many of my Italian-American friends did. I liked the fact that he was easy to talk to on the phone, sounded like a complete gentleman with a street-smart manner.

After a couple of phone conversations, we decided to meet for a drink. At the time, both of us were in school and I was working full-time as well, so while it is always nerve-wracking to meet someone face-to-face for the first time, it would be a fun way to break up the week.

I got to the bar first and when Tommy walked in a few minutes later, I knew it was him but my heart…

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It is with great excitement, I present to you the official Mr Wrong book cover. Get ready for a Sept/October launch. Please sign up to newsletter to get updates about progress of book and exciting events. Cover is designed by the amazing Sunny Tellone

Much love and gratitude towards anyone who have shown me support on this journey.

Daniella xx


MrWrong Back and Front



Do you ever feel as though you will never meet the right man? Are your relationships leaving you wondering what you’re doing wrong? Do you attract the same type of man, repeating the same negative patterns over and over again? If you find yourself thinking “Here we go again” or “I’ve been here before”, if you’re dating men who love you and leave you emotionally wounded and insecure, or if you’re wondering why you just can’t seem to get it right, I have news for you. You are simply dating the wrong men.


Mr. Wrong is an insightful and witty exploration into why some women continually attract the wrong men. This powerful collection of humorous, insightful, and entertaining stories are written by women from across the world that have encountered and overcome toxic Mr. Wrong relationships.


Mr. Wrong gives women the courage to turn their pain into Power and their adversities into Opportunities. It also gives space for celebrating Mr. Right by acknowledging men’s valuable relationship stories too. Do men get a bad rap? What role do women play in creating Mr. Wrong? Are we victims of our past, social conditioning or are we simply re-enacting negative belief systems? Open up and learn from Mr. Wrong and Claim Mr. Right by making a change from within.

7 Shades of Love Anthology is nearly ready to go!

7 Shades of love Cover WEB LARGEWith Mr Wrong complete and on the brink of being published, I have compiled a beautiful anthology of poems written by women and men across the world on the Universal subject of Love.

To help me publish please support by donating some funds in exchange for perks. Just £5 gets you a dedication and 2 poems  and £10 gets you that plus and EBook!

Please click here to  CONTRIBUTE


Short Summary

7 Shades of Love is an anthology lovingly written by women and men across the world, including UK, US, Canada, Jamaica, Kenya and Malaysia. As many of the authors in my book Mr Wrong possess a wealth of talent for poetry I could not help but have their voices heard in verse! 7 Shades of Love explores Love in colours and their associated meaning both in Eastern and Western cultures. It explores the colours and associated meaning as well as the belief system of Chakras which can reflect blockages in relationships and illuminate fulfilling and meaningful relationships. All we need in Life is Love. the only thing that’s true and real in Life is just that: Love

What We Need & What You Get

As I am publishing this anthology completely independently, I will need to raise funds to.

* register my own publishing company

* cover the cost of book cover design

* copyediting

* test copy

* printing of 100 books

* any marketing of the book

There are a number of perks, including *dedication in 7 Shades of Love, *free EBook, *free paperback books, *free framed poetry. Check out to select your choice. :)

The Impact

To allow the voices of others experiences and lessons learned in Love heard as well as to share with others the message that Love, although hard and painful at times, is really the only thing that truly exists- it’s only true opposition? Fear itself.

Other Ways You Can Help

If you are unable to contribute, please do share this campaign via twitter, FaceBook or any other Social Media site you can!

Follow my Blog and share with others.

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Peace and Love and an abundance of thanks in advance!
Daniella Blechner
author and editor

Here is a link to the review of 7 Shades of Love review

This campaign started on May 12 and will close on June 04, 2014 (11:59pm PT).


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Thank you so much


Let Dreams Win Over Doubt and Fear

So I am close to achieving my Dream of being a published author. I have dreamt of this since I was 4years old.  The transition from ‘doing what you’ve always done’  and taking that final leap is an interesting one. Up until this point I have had absolute faith that what I am doing is right and that publishing Mr Wrong and my anthology 7 Shades of Love is the goal but the goal is so much more than that.   When it comes to our Dreams with it comes a great sacrifice (for me anyway.)  I have found I’ve had to give things up. Sometimes we have to give up our job or toxic people and relationships, sometimes we have to block out the critical chimes of ‘you can’t do it’ ‘what would so and so think’ or ‘you’re mad to quit your job.’ I have found as I’ve delved deeper into this Dream that I have invested so much time and energy into not just the writing of the book but the research, questionnaires, speaking to people across the world and making them feel comfortable enough to share their stories. On that basis alone, I am blessed! That is all without having to learn how to publish and market a book and set up a website! And to think this time two years ago when I began this process I did not even know what a blog was!   I have learnt that when we are aligned with our purpose we cannot allow any negativity in. We must surround ourselves with positive people who support and encourage you and those wish you well.




I am a very self critical person as it is. Although I was confident in myself I always hid my achievements (unless sporting!) from others and hid from recognition or praise. If this is you you must be extra careful to protect yourself from Doubt and Fear and make sure you protect yourself daily through grounding positive affirmations, meditation or simply affirming your goals and Dreams to yourself. When you are close to your Dreams there comes moments and voices of Doubt and Fear. They tell you to give up and stop deluding yourself. They tell you that you must grasp tightly all those things you depend on for security for you are nothing without them, they tell you that you are kidding yourself and that you are not good enough. The trick is to say ‘thank you for speaking to me. I’m doing it anyway!’ and become more determined. #determination #dreams When I was 16 I wrote this poem as a message in our Year 11 class leavers book. I hope this little poem helps to inspire you too in some way. ‘Look to the sky and don’t look back, Walk straight ahead and keep on track, You will succeed in all that you do, If you just believe  people have faith in You.’

I have to believe in these words more than ever now.   Thank you to everyone who has supported me thus  far for Dreams cannot be built alone.



‘Dreams are nothing without conscious positive thought and action.’ Me


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Extraordinary Women- Meet Lillian Ogbogoh

Lillian Ogbogoh

Lillian image “My mission in this life is to empower women.  By helping women to redefine their self-relationships and reconnecting them with their deeply sensual sides. Giving them room to rediscover their own desirable, sensuous and audacious selves.

Many women are being held back from being the person that they know they can be and are not living their full potential.  Not because there are damaged and need to be fixed, it’s because women have been given false ideas of what it is to be feminine.  Most of us women hold thoughts and ideas that do not serve us.

These ideas and thoughts are keeping incredibly amazing women single, celibate and unhappy!”

How do you help women unleash the Power within and who do you work with?

I work with amazing women who are needlessly single, virtually dateless, and unhappy about it. Women who are successful in every area of their lives but one! She feels deep down that she is not enough to have that incredible relationship; she is secretly comparing herself with other women’s lives and finds herself coming up short. Due to the mind monster that has her believing all the lies and half-truths she has secretly adopted as her own through the years. I get her to reconnect with the deeply sensuous woman that she truly is so she can manifest the relationship she desires. I work with women using my Sensuality 101 Signature System to shift the past and all its baggage, creating a brand new way for her to connect with her sensual self and the sensuous world around her; unlocking her flirting style, as well as the things that get in the way of her truly sensual selves.

What inspired you to want to help other women?

Simply put, I have walked in that woman’s shoes, a woman who had fallen out of love with her own magnificence and started to believe the lies the gremlins, were telling about me.  I have had also giving up listening to my own intuition and rationalizing my way into a relationship and settling for less than I deserve. After I discovered personal development, discovered coaching, NLP and a few other modalities, I came to the place that no woman has to go through this and feel like she does not matter deep down.

What makes a successful date?

Well there are many things that contribute to a successful date. Firstly give up the idea of failure and success, and seriously see it as an adventure a chance to discover someone utterly amazing or get a clearer idea of who you want to be out with.  A date is not the time and place to fit a guy up for his wedding suit, so relax and have fun it should not  feel like the Spanish inquisition. The one thing that can ruin a great date is not being fully present because you are so busy worrying about your hair, your make up, if he thinks the waitress is prettier than you or you are busy being the social media queen and checking Facebook. Be where you are meant to be; put away your phone and focus on the person in front of you.


After having read the story Cursed Out what advice would you give other women who have encountered a similar situation?

My singular advice is to be very grateful that he showed you exactly who he is early on.  As the great Maya Angelou said if people show you who they are believe them.  He sounded like he has the If I don’t get my own way it I lash out at the nearest to me syndrome.  This has nothing to do with if she kissed him and how the date ended, it’s about him. Run for the hills and don’t turn back not even to pick up the fallen heels….


How can you tell if a man is interested in you?

Well this can be a bit tricky as it depends where you have met this man.  If a man is interested in you he will come over and talk to you is the standard belief. However this is not always the guess as some men are shy and will not approach you even if their lives depended on it.  Watch his body language as the body does not lie.. Is he leaning in when you are having a conversation?  Read his body language to see if he is using open body cues, he is leaning in and very attentive to what you are saying. He makes excuses to touch your arm or your face and is making consistent eye- contact with you I will say that Mr. Cute is definitely interested in you.  Also watch how he behaves towards you when other people are around or when you are out does he act in a protective fashion towards you this is a good sign that he is into you, Is he actually interested in the words that are coming out of your mouth? A man who is truly interested in you will be interested in you, not just how hot you look but the words that are coming out of your mouth and what is going on in your life.


How can you show a man you are interested in them without seeming desperate?

This is loaded question right here,  as the socialization is that if a woman shows a man she is interested she is deemed to be desperate or as the youth’s will tag it “Thirsty” I think this gets in the way of women being open to flirting and speaking up for their desires. Women for centuries have been telling men they find attractive exactly what she thinks.  The hanky drop was the signature more of the Victorian era, the sly glances from behind a fan… For our era we need to learn to employ our sensual avatar to do the flirting for you. Since we don’t have hankies at the ready, the best tools to use are eye contact, body language and the powerful flirting techniques that draws him to you…..


Do you have any dating disaster stories? Tell us!

Oh I have had a few disastrous dates but one that stands out will be the one I call the cat guy, not because it was that bad.  Because it was the first date that I was measured up against his cats! Then he proceeded to tell after I have ordered my food, how exotic it looked and what was that red spice….. I said pepper flakes, I spent half an hour listening to how his mother and auntie cooks all his meals, and the crescendo was being told that if his two Persian cats did not like me we could not date as he holds his cat mannerism as the level of perfection in a woman….. At that moment I gave up on the date and just enjoyed my meal J


What makes a successful relationship?

In my eyes a successful relationship is one that works for both parties involved, the easiest way to do this is give up on the idea of a 50/50 relationship because this idea is based on lack mentality. Instead adopt the idea of bringing the whole you to the relationship and play full out, it will give the other person the permission to do the same. Don’t turn your man into your hairy BFF! Ladies I know we all want our love interest to be our best friend but you have to know what to save for your girls and what will just end up as white noise….  Play and fight fairly…..In any relationship you will argue just remember to fight fairly by sticking to the issue at hand and not making it personal and owning your feeling.  Display of affection is the life blood to keeping your relationship strong.  Here is the thing just in case you don’t know every man wants to know that he is desired, appreciated and respected by his partner, just as much as we want to be appreciated, desired and adored. Don’t compare your relationship with others out there make your relationship unique to both of you.

What advice would you give women who are healing after a break-up?

As much as there is a whole glut of personal development ideas that keeps us in this happy cycle when we feel like screaming, I am a fan of acknowledging what you are feeling. Yes feel what you are feeling, scream, rant and rave to your BFF into your ice- cream and let the feeling pass. Do not turn this into an opportunity to have a pity party for one! Secondly take ownership of your part of what happened in the relationship, throw out the victim mode and take charge….. Spend time rediscovering your juicy self again what you enjoy doing and what makes you smile,  also be extremely gentle on yourself as you are healing treat yourself as your own BFF at this point!

I hear you too, are writing a book, tell us about it and why you decided to begin this adventure.

For more information on Lillian’s services, workshops and book check out: Yes I am in the process of compiling a book anthology titled “Born for this! The journey to success in life, love and business!  I am bringing together 29 co-authors from across the world the share their insights on their personal journey to success how they overcame failure in their life, love and business. I decided to start this journey  after I was a co-author in the  best-selling book called Success in high heels and I felt very fortunate to be part of  a collective that was sharing a powerful story 30 different ways and I decided to repeat the process and create 29 brand new co-authors……

Find out more about the Lovely Lillian at

To be in with a chance of winning a copy of her EBook 10 Secret Codes To Be Instantly Magnetic & Irresistible!  To Attract and Keep “The One” In your life! Click Here

Thank You!

I wanted to give a great big THANK YOU to all the wonderful people who contributed to helping me publish Mr Wrong. I managed to raise £1’100 and this could not have been done without the help of friends and family, old and new. Thank you so much. In return, all contributors will receive a special dedication in the book and you should all have received a poem and excerpt from the book. Just as soon as the books are published, your perks will be with you too!

Those of you looking to self publish or raise money for any positive project you have going, then I strongly recommend Indiegogo. It’s easy to register and they are quick, efficient and encouraging.

So far with the money raised, I have been able to get my manuscript copyedited and am in the process of getting a book cover designed for Mr Wrong. I have already got a book cover designed for the anthology 7 Shades of Love that I am really proud of. I am also in the process of setting up my website so that I can keep you updated with the latest events, books and poems for sale.

Now I am finally on the last legs of publishing I ask that you continue to support me by holding positive intentions in your minds that the book will be a success and sell! :)

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Thank you and thank you again!