To Fish Or Not to Fish? That Is The Question

To fish or not to fish? That is the question. Like it or not, internet dating is now one of the fastest growing phenomenons in the world. Can true love be found online or are they full of Mr Wrongs masquerading under a pumped up profile anyway? According to The Huffington Post online dating is a £2bn industry. With over half of the UK’s singletons dating online, Huffington Post states, “Online dating is now so important to the UK economy that the Office of National Statistics recently added online dating to its basket of goods and services to calculate UK inflation rates.” Globally one in five relationships start via online dating and there are constantly stories in the media detailing happy marriages sparked by online dating subscriptions. With over 7’500 sites available globally online dating can be a great way to connect people to each other from all over the world, match people with similar likes, dislikes, interests and relationship needs and wants.

However this is not always the case. Whilst online dating sites can be largely positive, the rise of Social Media in general, although has greatly enhanced communication globally, has also diminished the art of personal face-to-face communication.

The anonymity that Social sites provide allows the user to be just that. A user. The anonymity, not only allows some users to create a brand new personality for themselves but at times, a complete life transplantation! And sadly, when this life transplantation is discovered by the unwitting victim, a simple click of the “deletion” button can erase all responsibility as the victim sinks back into the pool of fungus and fish.

For more on Social Media, please see my post at:

Ladies and gents this time, I would LOVE to hear your experiences of online dating. Have you ever met someone online who in real life was not who they made out to be at all? Do you feel Social Media takes away the “art of face-to-face communication” responsibility or accountability when the relationship goes wrong? Have you had any online dating disasters, experiences? How did you deal with it? On the flip side I’d love to hear positive stories too. Are there any people out there who met their current partner online and found their online dating experience to be positive. I’d love to hear your stories and thoughts.

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Thanking you in advance

21 thoughts on “To Fish Or Not to Fish? That Is The Question

  1. I met my wonderful husband face-to-face (in fact he was someone I thought was cute for many years!) but prior to dating him I did try internet dating and it never worked for me.

    One of the strangest experiences was one time I met this amazing guy online but when I met him in person I thought he looked EXAXCTLY like my sister’s ex-husband (who was the biggest asshole in the world). I couldn’t get past that, every time I looked at my date it was like looking in the eyes of my sister’s ex — ewww! I had to leave the poor guy stranded in the middle of the date. I had tickets to a concert and decided I’d rather go by myself. Of course I was an idiot for judging him for his looks and that was my hang-up. The guy told me, “It’s your loss.” He was so hurt and I felt so bad, but it was just one of those weird things. I hope by now he met someone as amazing as he was and is happy.

    And on a positive internet dating note, one of my best male friends met his wife online on a Rolling Stones internet group. He’d probably love to tell you about it. Should I have him contact you? That’s definitely a better internet story than mine! LOL 🙂

    • Wow. That’s quite a story. Did you tell him the reason why? Poor thing missing out on the concert and date with you. I did chuckle though…I would love to hear from your friend! Feel free to direct him to my site or pass on my email add x

  2. ohhhh boy so we going there??!!! well i have been on a website now since around july and my experiences have been mixed to say the least! i think one of the biggest things to remember is you are meeting strangers who have the blankest of canvasses on which to create their masterpiece (or master forgery) so listen to your instincts if something seems off it probably is. Some of the people you meet will be idiots eg: 1 woman went into an a4 sized rant about how “she was a big woman and not some crazy stalker” just because i said 1 conversation was too soon to give her my phone number!! I met 1 lady who seemed cool but i was a bit taken back by her age (41 almost 10 years older than me) but we talked for a good while and got on well her photos looked really good so i thought hey its not a thing we finally went on a date and as soon as we met u thought oh no!!!!! she looked old enough to be one of henry the eighths wives!!!!! i am much too polite to have walked away but i felt so embarrassed after a few drinks she admitted the photos were over a decade old!! i made my excuses and left!!!!! but having said all this i have met someone we get along well been on 4 dates and while im not buying a engagement ring anytime soon things are going well!!…….. so far lol!!!!! what surprised me the most about it was that had i seen her in a bar i wouldnt even have approached because i wouldnt have thought I was HER type!!!!! so on the whole i think dating websites aslong as you keep your wits about you and dont expect miracles are definately a good thing!!!!!

    • Thanks for your input as always James. The first experience cracked me up. Always request a RECENT photo! Lol. So glad to hear you’ve met someone. Many good relationships and even marriages begin through online dating. I’ll just buy me hat. 😉

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  6. Being sort of a shy geek (yeah, I admit it), I’ve used online dating on and off since way back when it was still a stigma.

    It has worked fairly well for me, if you see past the low reply rate guys get (I understand this is a general issue because of skewed demographics). It’s easy to tell the scammers and idiots apart from regular people, and I only once made contact with a woman who turned out to be… obsessive to the point of being a borderline psychopath. Since I do not tend to give people my address and phone number immediately (and I am unlisted) it wasn’t a problem but in that case I am really glad she doesn’t know where to find me. 😉

    That said, none of my relationships “worked out” as in leading to a permanent thing, but I don’t think that’s the fault of online dating.

  7. I am on OKCupid. I have found that I go on second dates with probably 1/5 of the people I go out with. Most of the people are crazy, or just looking for 1 night stands, or a rebound from their ex. If you wanna know all about my dates, feel free to check out my blog! Nice post!

  8. Great post! Online dating is very very tricky! I have been doing it on and off for about a year or so. There are certain days I get really frustrated but I’ve come to the conclusion that I should not have high hopes about the entire process.

    There are so many men that say they’re ready to settle down but end up being pervs and just want to sleep with you on the first date or other men who can’t take rejection and just go on a ranting rampage and say all these negative opinions about me.

    I’ve gone out with some guys where I thought it would work out but it didn’t. I’ve gotten A LOT of first dates….quite a few second dates, but a lot haven’t gone further than that lol. I don’t know what it is!

    With all that being said, I just started a blog about the adventures that come with online dating. I’d love for you to check it out 🙂

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  10. I found this blog by way of a comment someone left on my blog and I’m delighted to have found it! I just published a similar post: Online Dating – Yea or Nay? I personally haven’t had any bad experiences, per se, but nothing ever came of any of the dates I went on. I think it’s a numbers game. You might be lucky and meet a guy you’ll have a future with on the fifth date or it might be the hundred and fiftieth guy.

    • If you have any Mr Wrong stories or online dating experiences. I would LOVE to hear! Any contributors who are selected to have their stories published will be notified and credited. Mr Wrong (the book!) needs YOU! x

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