Dating is a great way to get to know a person befor embarking on anything more serious. It allows us insight into the person’ character before we get in too deep. Many men wave that red flag from day dot. Read the dating story from one of my lovely contributors below.
Having been single for a few months, I finally decided to accept a date from a work colleague, totally disregarding the old adage about not dipping your pen into the office ink. I just thought that I might as well live a little- he was cute, had a good personality and we had been flirting so why not? He promised to take me to an exquisite restaurant with gourmet food and top notch service.
On the night of the date he picked me up in his car and even opened the door for me. He was even more witty and funny than usual and was saying all the right things and being extremely complimentary. How could this not be the beginning of a great night?
The restaurant however had no ambience, the service was flat and the food was some of the worst I had tasted. Gelatinous risotto and dry pheasant do not do it for me. Furthermore it seemed that Percy Pepper and Suzy Salt were on a vacation! That was my take however my dining companion still thought that this place was the best thing since sliced bread. To cap it all off the bill was grossly overpriced but my date put his hand in immediately and said that he had asked me out so he would pay.
He drove me home and as we parked outside of my house I thanked him for the good time and he then leaned in for a kiss. I instantly recoiled and explained that I liked him but only as a friend. He seemed to understand and didn’t seem offended…
The next week at work I came in and logged into my computer and waited for my emails to update and among the new emails I saw one from my date. I clicked on it expecting a cheery good morning laced with some witty repartee instead I got a short, sharp monosyllabic request for me to pay for half of the bill since I had told him that we wouldn’t be anything more than “friends”.
This is the reason I always insist on splitting the bill!
Ms Won’t Date a Co-Worker Again! 28, London, England
Now I don’t know about you, but I am of the volition that if a man asks you out on a date and offer to pay then he should do just that without any expectations. I think Miss Co Worker acted with real grace and dignity in this scenairo. Ladies what would you have done? Men- where do you stand on the who pays for what on the first date situation? Does paying for a woman mean instant rights to some sort of intimacy and if so why haven’t we got the memo? Do you insist on splitting the bill on first dates?