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The Power of Forgiveness

The Power of Forgiveness

Forgive heartAs we approach 2016, many of us will be reflecting on the year and making plans for the next. In doing so, it is important to be clear about what we want to take with us and what we must leave behind. Time is linear and so we must always ensure that we are moving forward and not holding onto old resentments from the   past. It’s time to set ourselves free!

Sometimes we experience so much pain we find it difficult to let go. We find it difficult to forgive and move on leaving us stuck in a negative cycle. However it is we who are weighed down and filled with bitterness, resentment, anger, disappointment and regret whilst whoever hurt you is walking around as light as a feather or perhaps continuing to treat others in the same hurtful way. Why are we carrying around their baggage? For hurt and pain are only inflicted as a result of other’s insecurities. Ladies why are we carrying these bags??! What’s in the past is in the past and must stay there! This is easier said than done.

Sometimes we carry this burden- and believe you me I’ve carried a heavy load for a long, long time (probably the cause of my back pain)- because we are afraid to let go. We may feel that if we let go we are allowing the other person to “get away with it” or that we have become a “walkover” somehow by forgetting about it. But in essence what we are doing is quite the opposite; we are finally moving on without the load, without the negative thoughts and feelings eroding our backs, our emotions and our Souls. We also may feel that we cannot let go as we become quite nostalgic about the past. The abuse or pain we endured becomes less “valid” if we let it go. It defines us some way and we don’t want to forget it. But in actual fact what it’s doing is making us move slower, making us weaker, bitter and lonely. Let that traumatic and painful part of your journey not define you but serve as a tool to help you grow stronger and wiser, happier and lighter. Again easier said than done.

 

Remember forgiving does not mean forgetting. It does not mean letting them back into your lives with the same circumstances or at all for that matter. It means seeing that person as a human being who’s made some terrible mistakes but helped you grow in some way whether it be emotionally, physically, mentally or spiritually. For in every challenge or difficulty there is strength and wisdom to be gained. It means releasing that person and their negative energy and negative situation you endured from your own and freeing yourself. It means forgiving yourself for not feeling strong enough, wise enough to react or act differently at the time. Once forgiveness is achieved we can finally take the next step to finding true happiness. Without forgiveness we will keep attracting the same circumstances, same lessons and same type of person into our lives until forgiveness is learnt. I talk as a lady who’s carried and dropped many bags in my lifetime!

 

Forgive divine

Here are two of my favourite quotes on forgiveness

Forgiveness is the choice to see people as they are now. When we’re mad at people, we’re focusing on something they said or did before this moment. By letting go of the past, we make room for miracles to replace our grievances.”-Miracle Cards- Marianne Williamson

 

Forgive and forget all that has hurt you in the past and made you doubt your “lovability.” Realise that hurt and disappointment are inevitable parts of our human learning experience. No matter how painful, the real injury was not that someone didn’t cherish you, but that you erroneously believed you didn’t deserve to be loved.”- Soul Lessons and Soul Purpose Oracle Cards- Sonia Choquette.

 

For Forgiveness exercises have a read of Mr Wrong and Mr Wrong Work Book

For more information on The Power of Forgiveness check out Daniella’s 7 Steps to creating the Greatest Version of You workshop on Sat 16th January at www.daniellablechner.com (you can buy signed copies of her books here too)

 

 

 

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7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You!

July 11th7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You is a workshop led with passion from the Heart. I won’t talk too much about it, but what I will do is let the testimonials and videos below speak for themselves. Book onto the next one on Sat 11th July at The Evolve Wellness Centre 10am-1pm (2.15 w/yoga)  https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/7-steps-to-creating-the-greatest-version-of-you-tickets-17114223102Why?

You draw in Maximum happiness when we are in alignment with The Greatest Version of You! ~Daniella Blechner

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Blog Testimonial- Maeve Crawford:

How 2 Hours on a Saturday Morning Changed My Life.

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facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinMR-WRONG-COVER-6501I was invited to attend a recent two hour workshop in London with Daniella Blechner, author of “Mr Wrong.” I’ve attended numerous trainings, workshops, seminars, coaching programmes and retreats over the years and wondered what new information I would learn.

I was really looking forward to the event, as I had got to know Daniella through her work and love what she’s doing to help people change the way they look at dating and relationships.

Daniella provided the group with a warm and friendly welcome and encouraged us all to take a moment out of our busy lives to focus on ourselves. This was perfect timing for me for a variety of personal and professional reasons.

DanniandJoyBlechnerDuring the workshop we wrote about our values and practised some EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) something I’d done before, but never in a group. This generated an increase in positive and loving energy, which the whole group felt!

As part of the workshop, we were invited to go through a guided forgiveness mediation. Danniella asked if I would read the meditation, as I had done at some previous events during her successful book tour. This was the moment for me when I realised how much I had been holding back with my own workshops.

We spent some time creating our vision boards and, whilst this was also something I had done before, I felt inspired about the creation process in a whole new way.

I felt a new sense of motivation and inspiration about my life purpose and tapped into a new belief about making things happen as I contemplated my intentions and what actions I was going to take to improve my life and step into my greatest version of myself.

7stepstothegreatestversionofyou7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You, is an event I will put in my diary and memory bank as a day that turned my life around. As soon as I returned home I took immediate action on some tasks I’d been avoiding.

I am so grateful to Daniella for the invitation and for igniting a new inspiration and determination to move forward in my life.

The next event will be in July 2015 and I encourage you to make it to this event, if you’re looking to make some changes in your life and begin to live your greatest version of you!

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Daniella and Francesca Explain the Workshop

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Chapter 13- The Power of Forgiveness

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Love Bless and Release

Sometimes we experience so much pain we find it difficult to let go. We find it difficult to forgive and move on leaving us stuck in a negative cycle. However it is we who are weighed down and filled with bitterness, resentment, anger, disappointment and regret whilst whoever hurt you is walking around as light as a feather or perhaps continuing to treat others in the same hurtful way. Why are we carrying around their baggage? For hurt and pain are only inflicted as a result of other’s insecurities. Ladies why are we carrying these bags??! What’s in the past is in the past and must stay there! Easier said than done. Sometimes we carry this burden- and believe you me; I’ve carried a heavy load for a long, long time (probably the cause of my back pain)- because we are afraid to let go. We may feel that if we let go we are allowing the other person to “get away with it” or that we have become a “walkover” somehow by forgetting about it. But in essence what we are doing is quite the opposite, we are finally moving on without the load, without the negative thoughts and feelings eroding our backs, our emotions and our Souls. We also may feel that we cannot let go as we become quite nostalgic about the past. The abuse or pain we endured becomes less “valid” if we let it go. It defines us some way and we don’t want to forget it. But in actual fact what it’s doing is making us move slower, making us weaker, bitter and lonely. Let that traumatic and painful part of your journey not define you but serve as a tool to help you grow stronger and wiser, happier and lighter.  Again easier said than done.

Remember forgiving does not mean forgetting. It does not mean letting them back into your lives with the same circumstances or at all for that matter. It means seeing that person as a human being who’s made some terrible mistakes but helped you grow in some way whether it be emotionally, physically, mentally or spiritually. For in every challenge or difficulty there is strength and wisdom to be gained. It means releasing that person and their negative energy and negative situation you endured from your own and freeing yourself. It means forgiving yourself for not feeling strong enough, wise enough to react or act differently at the time. Once forgiveness is achieved we can finally take the next step to finding true happiness and Mr Right. Without forgiveness we will keep attracting the same circumstances, same lessons and same type of person into our lives until forgiveness is learnt. I talk as a lady who’s carried and dropped many bags in my lifetime!

“Forgiveness is the choice to see people as they are now. When we’re mad at people, we’re focusing on something they said or did before this moment. By letting go of the past, we make room for miracles to replace our grievances.”-Miracle Cards- Marianne Williamson

“Forgive and forget all that has hurt you in the past and made you doubt your “lovability.” Realise that hurt and disappointment are inevitable parts of our human learning experience. No matter how painful, the real injury was not that someone didn’t cherish you, but that you erroneously believed you didn’t deserve to be loved.”- Soul Lessons and Soul Purpose Oracle Cards- Sonia Choquette.

Have you ever had to dig deep in order to forgive someone? Can you give us mere mortals :p some advice on how you managed it?  How important is forgiveness in your life and experience?

Follow here for fourteen  more quotes on forgiveness http://lifeloveandmusic.net/14-quotes-that-ask-you-to-forgive/

DING DONG IT’S MR WRONG SKETCHES HAVE ARRIVED!

Having had a few Mr Wrong girlie nights at mine and judging by the feedback I have had, it seems that everyone, at some stage of their lives, has encountered one of these Mr Wrongs or “Mr Wrongun” as my Dad likes to say! Below are some sketches drawn by the very talented Amde Anbessa-Ebanks

If you want to go ‘Mr Wrong Spotting’, a bit like bird watching without the binoculars, or like most, want to simply avoid Mr Wrong simply use the key below to IDENTIFY and AVOID!

 

Mr Loose Eye

‘Baby it’s all about you.’

Appearance: Large google eyes and gormless expression. Often has his mouth open and has a tendency to dribble.

Movement: Shifty revolving eyes and a revolving head that can turn a full owl-like 360!

Typical Phrase:
“I’m just looking at her T-shirt!”
“What were you saying?”
“Why are you always accusing me!”

Tone of Voice: Soft and reassuring.

 

 

Mr X Factor

“That’s what my ex use to say.”

Appearance:wears a permanent pained expression as if he’s had an unfortunate encounter with a liquor of laxatives.

Movement:Walks slowly with shoulders stooped; he’s a broken man trapped in a time warp

Typical Phrase:
“I’m over her.”
“She needs me.”
“Me and my ex use to go here.”

 Tone of Voice:  Monotonous and whiny.

 

 

Mr Parasite/Emotional Vampire

“YOU made me do it!.””

Appearance:  Looks shiny on the outside. Looks are irrelevant as they are deceiving but if you look close enough, you can see the hooked claws, translucent skin and sharp fangs beneath his smiling mouth.

Movement:  Walks as if he is drained of all energy before feed and buzzing with excitement after.

Typical Phrase: 
“I’m not blaming you but it’s your fault.”
“We need to talk.
You’ve upset me again.”

Tone of Voice:  Will use any tone of voice necessary to get required ‘emotion’ across. Often has an accusatory/defensive tone.

 

Mr Workaholic

“I can’t, I’ve got to……”

Appearance: Small tired eyes, a tense expression. Rarely smiles. Often has a throbbing vein located at right temple.

Movement: He dashes about like a bolt of lightning attending to his work needs but slobs about at home.

Typical Phrase:
“I’m working late again honey.”
“In early tomorrow.”
“I can’t make it I’m working.”

Tone of Voice:  Busy, rushed and tense.

 

 

Mr Serial Liar

“Honest to God babe!”

Appearance: Not everything that glitters is gold.

Movementt: Has a shifty rat-like nervousness about him. His movements are quick and sharp as he ducks and dives as if dodging a bullet. Often coughs to cover up his lies, and scratches his head and nose. Prone to twitching and head turning as he scans the area for trails of his lies.

Typical Phrase:
“Honest babe.”
“It’s not you, it’s me.”
“You’re the only one for me.”

Tone of Voice:  Amateur– changes pitch and tone frequently. Professional-has a slow and steady reassuring tone.

                     

                                                

Please comment and VOTE for your favourite sketch here. If you would like to view more of Amde’s wonderful work please check out http://www.tagacreations1.carbonmade.com

If you would like Amde to draw a sketch/sketches for your project or for any reason at all please email him at taga5000@yahoo.co.uk.

Don’t forget although we want to avoid and get rid of Mr Wrong we are forgiving women. Why? Because bitterness and resentment are the root of all illnesses and their ain’t no Mr Wrong pill to take so Love, Bless, Release and move on. To find out more check out an excerpt from Chapter 3- The Power of Forgiveness

Ladies don’t forget to add your stories here Share Your Stories! If I can do it so can you! You can read others stories here too!

Finally, if anyone else would like to have a go and drawing some sketches feel free to post or email me at dingdongitsmrwrong@yahoo.co.uk. Artwork will be displayed on my blog with a link to your page.

Welcome to My First Post!- Social Media

Welcome to my very first blog! As I write this I must thank Candy-Ellie Nanna for showing me how to set this up.

Source of Inspiration- Social Media

This book needs you! I am looking to create an open forum where we can share, discuss and explore our experiences with men. The term “Mr Wrong” is  controversial topic in itself. Is there such a thing as Mr Wrong or is the term, “Mr Wrong-for-you-right-now” more applicable?. Is there such a thing as Mr Right or is he more of an ideal? What makes a Mr Wrong or Mr Right anyway? Mr Wrong came about partly due to my own past experiences and having listened to experiences that sound all too scarily similar. Its heartbreaking to see so many of my thirty-something pals who I consider to be strong, intelligent, beautiful, vivacious, witty and  Continue reading