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7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You!

July 11th7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You is a workshop led with passion from the Heart. I won’t talk too much about it, but what I will do is let the testimonials and videos below speak for themselves. Book onto the next one on Sat 11th July at The Evolve Wellness Centre 10am-1pm (2.15 w/yoga)  https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/7-steps-to-creating-the-greatest-version-of-you-tickets-17114223102Why?

You draw in Maximum happiness when we are in alignment with The Greatest Version of You! ~Daniella Blechner

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Blog Testimonial- Maeve Crawford:

How 2 Hours on a Saturday Morning Changed My Life.

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facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedinMR-WRONG-COVER-6501I was invited to attend a recent two hour workshop in London with Daniella Blechner, author of “Mr Wrong.” I’ve attended numerous trainings, workshops, seminars, coaching programmes and retreats over the years and wondered what new information I would learn.

I was really looking forward to the event, as I had got to know Daniella through her work and love what she’s doing to help people change the way they look at dating and relationships.

Daniella provided the group with a warm and friendly welcome and encouraged us all to take a moment out of our busy lives to focus on ourselves. This was perfect timing for me for a variety of personal and professional reasons.

DanniandJoyBlechnerDuring the workshop we wrote about our values and practised some EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) something I’d done before, but never in a group. This generated an increase in positive and loving energy, which the whole group felt!

As part of the workshop, we were invited to go through a guided forgiveness mediation. Danniella asked if I would read the meditation, as I had done at some previous events during her successful book tour. This was the moment for me when I realised how much I had been holding back with my own workshops.

We spent some time creating our vision boards and, whilst this was also something I had done before, I felt inspired about the creation process in a whole new way.

I felt a new sense of motivation and inspiration about my life purpose and tapped into a new belief about making things happen as I contemplated my intentions and what actions I was going to take to improve my life and step into my greatest version of myself.

7stepstothegreatestversionofyou7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You, is an event I will put in my diary and memory bank as a day that turned my life around. As soon as I returned home I took immediate action on some tasks I’d been avoiding.

I am so grateful to Daniella for the invitation and for igniting a new inspiration and determination to move forward in my life.

The next event will be in July 2015 and I encourage you to make it to this event, if you’re looking to make some changes in your life and begin to live your greatest version of you!

Video Testimonial

Adelaide MacKenzie Video Testimonial

Daniella and Francesca Explain the Workshop

7 STEPS EXPLAINED VIDEO

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Chapter 2- Start With You

Please find an excerpt from Chapter 2- Start With You; an investigation into belief systems and how they effect what we attract into our lives.

Chapter 2:  Start with You

These are self-esteem battering and, at worst, abusive relationships and unless you want to keep experiencing the same death march each time I strongly advise you take a deep breath, embrace a new approach and follow these steps to Mr Right. But first it starts with you and the way you perceive yourself; how you feel about yourself. If you are ready to be honest with yourself and do some soul searching (it doesn’t have to be a long and arduous task) and embrace a new approach you are halfway there!

I have asked myself time and time again, ‘Why have I deserved this treatment again?’ and even wondered why the world was punishing me. Why were most of my friends settled down and living happy healthy relationships and lives and here am I trawling through painful relationship after painful relationship getting it wrong time and time again. What was wrong with me? Why couldn’t they see what a catch I was? I’m intelligent, loving, caring, independent, vivacious and positive. It took me over a decade to dissect the questions I was asking only to realise that I was asking the wrong questions. The question was not, “What was wrong with me?” but “Why am I attracting the wrong man for me?” The question was not, “Why can’t they see what a catch I am?” but “Why couldn’t I see what a good catch I was?” What was wrong with me was that I had allowed my sense of self-worth and self-esteem to be dictated and defined by the way these men had treated me. I had somehow subconsciously agreed that I had deserved it and in doing so kept on attracting the same type of man into my experience.

Now I imagine you’re reading this now protesting, “No I have a high sense of self-esteem and self-worth!”   I did. Well if that is the case why do we keep attracting and staying with the same kind of unavailable men who hold us in such unsatisfying and negative situations? The answer is; it is us. It is we who are holding ourselves in this unhappy and unhealthy situation, we who have chosen this path and we who have chosen this man.  What we need to ask ourselves is, “Why have we chosen this particular man and path?” and “What are our expectations?” Do we deep down, expect these men to walk away from us, to hurt us and abandon us or do we expect this man to offer us an equal loving and stable relationship based on honesty and mutual respect? If we are expecting the latter and getting the opposite and stay what does this say about our sense of self-worth; our sense of self-esteem? Equally if we are expecting the worst and receive the worst and stay put the same question can be posed, what does this say about our sense of self-worth; our sense of self-esteem?

Belief Systems

Belief systems are deeply ingrained beliefs we have about ourselves and the world around us. These are created and formed at an early age and affected by experiences and events we experience. Our belief systems can be affected by the way we are treated by others or made to feel. They can also be affected by other peoples’ opinions or perceptions. For example, if as a child, you are told by people in “authority” or “authoritative positions” over and over again that you are clumsy, thick and will never get anywhere it is most likely the child not only hear these words, they will ‘feel’ these words and associate these words with themselves. Every time they hear them they begin to believe these words apply to them. They will live out these words and most likely fulfil these false prophecies formed by someone else’s misguided opinion.  If they are told they are “unlovable” as a child and they experience a lack of love from those who are meant to love them, most likely they will find it harder to accept and believe they deserve to be loved just for being who they are. Perhaps they will try and change who they really are in order to fit in or conform hence deep in their deep belief system they believe that in order to be loved they must conform; they must not be themselves. How long can a person live this way, concealing who they really are? How can a person really truly love themselves if they cannot be themselves? Truly. How healthy is it to live your life believing that to be loved you need to live by someone else’s standards? Everyone deserves to be loved. No one is any more or less worthy. However, when we live through these kinds of experiences without being fully aware of the affects upon our own thinking or sense of self we become littered with false and dangerous belief systems that have been dictated to us by those who, quite often, already have negative belief systems about themselves.

If we as a child have been abandoned or neglected, we may as adults suffer from a deep seated fear of abandonment. We may fear that everyone we become close to will eventually leave and abandon us. We may end up catering so heavily to someone elses’ needs that we forget our own. This relationship is unhealthy and based on the belief system that you are not worthy enough to be loved. If you have not placed your needs, wants and desires high up on that ladder of importance why would or should anyone else? I am a big believer that whatever thoughts we hold in our belief system we will attract. Like attracts like. That what we focus on the most will always transpire into our conscious lives. Have you ever been in a situation when you’ve feared the worst and when the worst happens you say, almost triumphantly, “I knew that was going to happen!”? Well of course it did it’s what you believed to be true! In the past, the relationships I had attracted and the men I had chosen perfectly matched my deep rooted belief that I didn’t deserve to be loved and that I will eventually be bitterly let down. Well at least a perfect match! How could I possibly be a victim when I have simply attracted what I believed to be true?

Change your thinking and your thinking will change you!!

Below is a really interesting link about Fear of Abandonment. An insightful read.

http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/abandonment.html