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Extraordinary Woman- Francesca Blechner

Yes this month’s Extraordinary Woman is my very own amazing and talented sister whose mission is to help others to grow in confidence in their own skin and spirit. Francesca Blechner FranFrancesca is a highly passionate Holistic Fitness Coach and Yoga Teacher. She runs a mobile Personal Training business called FB Personal Training which is dedicated to improving the health and well-being of others by empowering and educating clients with the skills and tools to attain their health and fitness for life. Francesca has worked with celebrities Shola Ama, Richard Osman and Jason Manford; worked exclusively with clients in Saudi Arabia, New York and Doha and on private retreats as the Health and Fitness coach and teaching yoga. She has acquired a wealth of knowledge and has over 15 years’ experience in the fitness industry, achieving a substantial client list including Royalty, celebrities, business executives, new mums, athletes and gym members. Her specialities include Power Yoga, Restoration sessions and Sports Massage. Links to website: www.fb-personaltraining.co.uk Facebook: Fran Blechner (FB) Personal Training Twitter: @FBPERSONALTRAIN  

 

Describe yourself in three words. Passionate, ambitious, witty

 

What inspired you to get into the Health and Fitness industry?

Natural progression from doing Sports at school and Athletic Training as a teenager. I use to take friends to my Mum’s gym on a guest pass and would naturally be their teacher and guide them.

 

What is Holistic Fitness Coaching? Holistic Fitness coaching is about looking into the ‘big picture’ of a client’s health and fitness not just exercise to facilitate a client on the road to optimal health and performance

. You run a Holistic, Lifestyle Coaching Programme. Tell us a bit about that. Each client has to fill out a profile which assesses Stress, digestion, nutrition, sleep patterns and their detoxification system. All of these factors have a significant impact on an individual’s physiology. By assessing these factors, I am then able to measure the level of physiological stress on the body and thus tailor a specific training and nutrition protocol appropriate for the individual.

 

What advice would you give to women who lack self-esteem due to their body image?

No 1. Don’t compare yourself to other women or magazines, it serves no purpose each woman is unique and beautiful in their own way and it’s time to celebrate your uniqueness and own beauty.

  1. Gratitude is a powerful practice, like most women I also have my body hang ups and insecurities. One day I saw a young woman come into the gym in a wheelchair, she had MS and in the last few years had pretty much lost use of her legs and was raising her young son by herself. She was petrified for her first visit to the gym but determined to do some training and gain some strength. I was so touched by her story, these days when my insecurities come in, I remind myself ‘I am so blessed and lucky to have a body that is healthy and fully functioning, to be able to move with ease and do the activities I love’ Practice gratitude daily.

How would you raise their confidence?

Some form of exercise or training certainly has positive benefits and helps raise confidence, simply when you take action to take care of yourself you feel better and thus confidence increases.  

What do you find most rewarding about the valuable work that you do?

I see people change their lives, taking care of yourself by nourishing your body with the food that it needs, reducing stress levels, exercise and resting are acts of self-love. This in itself is very powerful and has a knock on effect, I see client’s transform other aspects of their lives- work, relationships, hobbies, interests… When you feel good about yourself this impacts all aspects of your life.

You have lots of positive testimonials on your website, what is your most memorable success story?

One of my favourites is a 55 year old male came to me and said he hadn’t done anything since school and was petrified. He was very out of shape, had high blood pressure and been on medication for it for over 10 years. Our first session was very light just mobility and flexibility and I remember having to cut the session short as this was strenuous enough, 6 months later he had lost 2 and half stone and his body shape changed significantly (you can see the before and after pictures on my website www.fb-personaltraining.co.uk) Within a year the Doctor had pulled him off his medication as his blood pressure had stabilised to a normal level itself.  5 years on, this client still trains with me 3 x week, has regular blood pressure checks with his Doctor and continues to be drug free. He is 100% fitter, runs for 25 minutes now and does intense strength training with me. He tells me coming to his training sessions are one of the most important things in his life!

You will be leading a yoga session as part of the 7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You workshop, can you tell us a little more about that and how women can benefit?

I find yoga a great way for grounding and finding that inner stillness especially needed when living a fast paced city lifestyle. Yoga enables you to reconnect with your body and mind and essentially clear space in the mind to allow clarity to come through. We will focus on using the breath and doing some powerful visualisation techniques to help create your visions and make them a reality. I am really excited to be doing this session.

What would you advise women who feel stuck in life and have a hard time achieving their target body weight? Make peace with where you are now and how you got there. Mindset is vital so accepting where you are now with love and giving yourself permission to take action and change for the better. A support network is vital too, tell people what you are setting out to do and make yourself accountable, make your friends/ partner/ family check up on you to keep you in check.

Lastly, what’s your favourite quote and why? 

If you say you can or you can’t you are right either way!’ Henry Ford What you believe is true

YOGAWEST163 YOGAWEST159 YOGAWEST156 To find out more about Francesca Blechner or to book an appointment contact her at: www.fb-personaltraining.co.uk info@fb-personaltraining.co.uk +44 (0) 7888654617 To Book Tickets to the 7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You go to Book tickets!

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7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You is here

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I am excited to announce the birth of my brand spanking new workshop 7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You!

7 Steps to creating the Greatest Version of You is a Workshop led by the Heart with passion.

This workshop is for women who want to see a change in their lives and to be part of activating that change. This workshop is for women who want to create, evolve and be empowered; women who want to be the authors of their own destiny and explore their Inner Strength.

If this sounds like you keep reading….

7 Steps to creating the Greatest Version of You is an interactive workshop where you will:

-Identify your Needs, Wants and Desires

– Set and Voice Your Positive Intentions

– Transform Visualisations into Reality

– Experience the Power of Gratitude

-Love, Bless and Release past baggage and hurt

-Experience the Power of Forgiveness

– Create Your Own Vision Board

Through a series of group and individual exercises 7 Steps to Creating the Greatest Version of You will allow YOU, as a unique individual, to tap into your Inner Guide and start painting a positive canvass for your life. You will be given a Workbook to practise your exercises, visualisations, meditations and reflections. So this 1 day workshop really does work with continual and mindful practise!

 

Bring plenty of water and images for your vision board

CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR EARLYBIRD TICKETS!

The 7 Steps workshop will be run by Daniella Blechner (author of Mr Wrong and 7 Shades of Love, teacher and Level 3 Healer)

For more info: www.daniellablechner.com

Qualified yoga teacher and celebrity Personal trainer Francesca Joy Blechner will also be running a 1hr yoga session where you will get to set your intentions through breath-work, movement, visualisation and meditations.

For more info: http://fb-personaltraining.co.uk/

Sign up and LIVE the results

For queries email: info@daniellablechner.com  

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Francesca Blechner (Celebrity Personal Trainer and Yoga teacher)

Fran

 

Blechner Sisters team up!

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Chapter 12- Start With You

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Please find another excerpt taken from Chapter 2 called Start With You. I hope you enjoy and that some of this may ring true.

Chapter 12:  Start with You

These are self-esteem battering and, at worst, abusive relationships and unless you want to keep experiencing the same death march each time, I strongly advise you take a deep breath, embrace a new approach and follow these steps to Mr Right. But first it starts with you and the way you perceive yourself; how you feel about yourself. If you are ready to be honest with yourself and do some soul-searching (it doesn’t have to be a long and arduous task) and embrace a new approach you are halfway there!

I have asked myself time and time again, ‘Why have I deserved this treatment again?’ and even wondered why the world was punishing me. Why were most of my friends settled down and living happy healthy relationships and lives and here am I trawling through painful relationship after painful relationship getting it wrong time and time again. What was wrong with me? Why couldn’t they see what a catch I was? I’m intelligent, loving, caring, independent, vivacious and positive. It took me over a decade to dissect the questions I was asking only to realise that I was asking the wrong questions. The question was not, “What was wrong with me?” but “Why am I attracting the wrong man for me?” The question was not, “Why can’t they see what a catch I am?” but “Why couldn’t I see what a good catch I was?” What was wrong with me was that I had allowed my sense of self-worth and self-esteem to be dictated and defined by the way these men had treated me. I had somehow subconsciously agreed that I had deserved it and in doing so kept on attracting the same type of man into my experience.

Now I imagine you’re reading this now protesting, “No I have a high sense of self-esteem and self-worth!” I did. Well if that is the case why do we keep attracting and staying with the same kind of unavailable men who hold us in such unsatisfying and negative situations? The answer is; it is us. It is we who are holding ourselves in this unhappy and unhealthy situation, we who have chosen this path and we who have chosen this man.  What we need to ask ourselves is, “Why have we chosen this particular man and path?” and “What are our expectations?” Do we deep down, expect these men to walk away from us, to hurt us and abandon us or do we expect this man to offer us an equal loving and stable relationship based on honesty and mutual respect? If we are expecting the latter and getting the opposite and stay what does this say about our sense of self-worth; our sense of self-esteem? Equally if we are expecting the worst and receive the worst and stay put the same question can be posed, what does this say about our sense of self-worth; our sense of self-esteem?

Belief Systems

Belief systems are deeply ingrained beliefs we have about ourselves and the world around us. These are created and formed at an early age and affected by experiences and events we experience. Our belief systems can be affected by the way we are treated by others or made to feel. They can also be affected by other peoples’ opinions or perceptions. For example, if a child is told by people in “authority” or “authoritative positions” over and over again that they are clumsy, thick and will never get anywhere it is most likely the child not only hear these words, they will ‘feel’ these words and associate these words with themselves. Every time they hear them they begin to believe these words apply to them. They will live out these words and most likely fulfill these false prophecies formed by someone else’s misguided opinion.  If they are told they are “unlovable” as a child and they experience a lack of love from those who are meant to love them, most likely they will find it harder to accept and believe they deserve to be loved just for being who they are. Perhaps they will try and change who they really are in order to fit in or conform hence deep in their deep belief system they believe that in order to be loved they must conform; they must not be themselves. How long can a person live this way, concealing who they really are? How can a person really truly love themselves if they cannot be themselves? Truly. How healthy is it to live your life believing that to be loved you need to live by someone else’s standards? Everyone deserves to be loved. No one is any more or less worthy. However, when we live through these kinds of experiences without being fully aware of the affects upon our own thinking or sense of self we become littered with false and dangerous belief systems that have been dictated to us by those who, quite often, already have negative belief systems about themselves.

If we as a child have been abandoned or neglected, we may as adults suffer from a deep seated fear of abandonment. We may fear that everyone we become close to will eventually leave and abandon us. We may end up catering so heavily to somebody else’s needs that we forget our own. This relationship is unhealthy and based on the belief system that you are not worthy enough to be loved. If you have not placed your needs, wants and desires high up on that ladder of importance why would or should anyone else? I am a big believer that whatever we thoughts we hold in our belief system we will attract. Like attracts like. That what we focus on the most will always transpire into our conscious lives. Have you ever been in a situation when you’ve feared the worst and when the worst happens you say, almost triumphantly, “I knew that was going to happen!” Well of course it did it’s what you believed to be true! In the past, the relationships I had attracted and the men I had chosen perfectly matched my deep rooted belief that I didn’t deserve to be loved and that I will eventually be bitterly let down. Well at least a perfect match! How could I possibly be a victim when I have simply attracted what I believed to be true?

Change your thinking and your thinking will change you!!

Chapter 2- Start With You

Please find an excerpt from Chapter 2- Start With You; an investigation into belief systems and how they effect what we attract into our lives.

Chapter 2:  Start with You

These are self-esteem battering and, at worst, abusive relationships and unless you want to keep experiencing the same death march each time I strongly advise you take a deep breath, embrace a new approach and follow these steps to Mr Right. But first it starts with you and the way you perceive yourself; how you feel about yourself. If you are ready to be honest with yourself and do some soul searching (it doesn’t have to be a long and arduous task) and embrace a new approach you are halfway there!

I have asked myself time and time again, ‘Why have I deserved this treatment again?’ and even wondered why the world was punishing me. Why were most of my friends settled down and living happy healthy relationships and lives and here am I trawling through painful relationship after painful relationship getting it wrong time and time again. What was wrong with me? Why couldn’t they see what a catch I was? I’m intelligent, loving, caring, independent, vivacious and positive. It took me over a decade to dissect the questions I was asking only to realise that I was asking the wrong questions. The question was not, “What was wrong with me?” but “Why am I attracting the wrong man for me?” The question was not, “Why can’t they see what a catch I am?” but “Why couldn’t I see what a good catch I was?” What was wrong with me was that I had allowed my sense of self-worth and self-esteem to be dictated and defined by the way these men had treated me. I had somehow subconsciously agreed that I had deserved it and in doing so kept on attracting the same type of man into my experience.

Now I imagine you’re reading this now protesting, “No I have a high sense of self-esteem and self-worth!”   I did. Well if that is the case why do we keep attracting and staying with the same kind of unavailable men who hold us in such unsatisfying and negative situations? The answer is; it is us. It is we who are holding ourselves in this unhappy and unhealthy situation, we who have chosen this path and we who have chosen this man.  What we need to ask ourselves is, “Why have we chosen this particular man and path?” and “What are our expectations?” Do we deep down, expect these men to walk away from us, to hurt us and abandon us or do we expect this man to offer us an equal loving and stable relationship based on honesty and mutual respect? If we are expecting the latter and getting the opposite and stay what does this say about our sense of self-worth; our sense of self-esteem? Equally if we are expecting the worst and receive the worst and stay put the same question can be posed, what does this say about our sense of self-worth; our sense of self-esteem?

Belief Systems

Belief systems are deeply ingrained beliefs we have about ourselves and the world around us. These are created and formed at an early age and affected by experiences and events we experience. Our belief systems can be affected by the way we are treated by others or made to feel. They can also be affected by other peoples’ opinions or perceptions. For example, if as a child, you are told by people in “authority” or “authoritative positions” over and over again that you are clumsy, thick and will never get anywhere it is most likely the child not only hear these words, they will ‘feel’ these words and associate these words with themselves. Every time they hear them they begin to believe these words apply to them. They will live out these words and most likely fulfil these false prophecies formed by someone else’s misguided opinion.  If they are told they are “unlovable” as a child and they experience a lack of love from those who are meant to love them, most likely they will find it harder to accept and believe they deserve to be loved just for being who they are. Perhaps they will try and change who they really are in order to fit in or conform hence deep in their deep belief system they believe that in order to be loved they must conform; they must not be themselves. How long can a person live this way, concealing who they really are? How can a person really truly love themselves if they cannot be themselves? Truly. How healthy is it to live your life believing that to be loved you need to live by someone else’s standards? Everyone deserves to be loved. No one is any more or less worthy. However, when we live through these kinds of experiences without being fully aware of the affects upon our own thinking or sense of self we become littered with false and dangerous belief systems that have been dictated to us by those who, quite often, already have negative belief systems about themselves.

If we as a child have been abandoned or neglected, we may as adults suffer from a deep seated fear of abandonment. We may fear that everyone we become close to will eventually leave and abandon us. We may end up catering so heavily to someone elses’ needs that we forget our own. This relationship is unhealthy and based on the belief system that you are not worthy enough to be loved. If you have not placed your needs, wants and desires high up on that ladder of importance why would or should anyone else? I am a big believer that whatever thoughts we hold in our belief system we will attract. Like attracts like. That what we focus on the most will always transpire into our conscious lives. Have you ever been in a situation when you’ve feared the worst and when the worst happens you say, almost triumphantly, “I knew that was going to happen!”? Well of course it did it’s what you believed to be true! In the past, the relationships I had attracted and the men I had chosen perfectly matched my deep rooted belief that I didn’t deserve to be loved and that I will eventually be bitterly let down. Well at least a perfect match! How could I possibly be a victim when I have simply attracted what I believed to be true?

Change your thinking and your thinking will change you!!

Below is a really interesting link about Fear of Abandonment. An insightful read.

http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/abandonment.html